Angel Advice on how to stopBegrudgery

Today I decided to ask about a thing that I know is not good but that I cant seem to stop, which is begrudgery. I begrudge other people their success. For instance, today I read in the paper that Brendan O Connor who writes for the Sunday Independent (which I also write for) is going to be doing a Saturday night chat show on Irish telly. I am jealous because I would like to be offered a chat show! But Brendan having a chat show does not mean I cant have one too. So why do I begrudge him it? And why do I resent other people who get things that I want? Can this be stopped?

Angel Answer:

We do sympathise! Indeed, we feel tremendously envious and resentful when other angels achieve better results than we are having with our clients! It is quite a natural response that you are experiencing, this resentment. Think of it as coming from the part of you that fights to survive against all the other hunters and predators! You see another person with a large hunk of fresh meat and you want to kill him so that you can have food for yourself! This instinct comes from the deepest part of your human conditioning. As with any other survival-related instinct, it is neither essential nor useful to try to 'stop' it, as you have suggested. Trying to stop it will only make you feel bad and wrong for being human! What is already happening is that you are becoming aware of these reactions, and you are realising that it is not necessary for you to starve just because another person is being fed! There is a part of you who feels threatened, who feels that you must compete with all other humans for every good thing that you desire. But there is a greater part, a more essential part who knows for certain that nothing that is for your greater good will be denied to you and that you cannot be deprived by another person's success, no matter how many people tell you that you can. Your soul has the capacity and the materials and the method for realising your potential, if you so choose it. But you must choose it, if it is to happen! If you wish, you can also sit back and watch as others do the things that you think you should be doing.

We sense that there is much frustration in your world. Many of you feel that you are under-achieving, you are not getting as far as fast as you could be or should be, particularly in your careers, but also in your personal lives. You look around you and see other people becoming richer or more famous or successful or simply doing more than you do and you feel angry with yourselves for being inadequate in comparison. We suggest that this is a far more important issue to concern yourselves with, this problem of comparison with others and feeling inadequate. Ask yourself honestly which you would prefer, to have a chat show of your own, or to feel good that you are doing exactly what it is that you came here to do?

Me: When you put it that way, I think the answer is that I would like to feel certain that I am doing what I am here to do! Also that I am not too lazy, because I often think I am too lazy, especially when I see other people doing more than me. I wish everyone was as lazy as me so I wouldnt feel bad. But then there would be nothing fun for me to watch on telly.

Angels:

Indeed. And so the real question is 'how can I feel good about being me, even if I think I am lazy?' The answer to that is simple. Decide to feel good about being you, exactly as you are and to only change things if you feel inclined to change the, not because other people are doing it. If you can achieve this, you will be happier than all the people with chat shows, because all the people with chat shows will be comparing themselves to other, more successful people with chat shows, we guarantee it!